The Allergy Relief Secret Most People Get Backwards
Sarah came to me in week three of what she called “allergy hell.”
Her toolkit was impressive: antihistamines, nasal sprays, eye drops, air purifiers running 24/7. She was managing her allergies perfectly.
And she felt terrible.
“I’m doing everything right,” she told me. “But my body feels like it’s fighting a war it can’t win.”
That’s when I realized she’d fallen into the trap most people do this time of year.
She was managing her allergies. But she wasn’t listening to them.
The Backwards Approach That Keeps You Stuck
Here’s what we’ve been taught: allergies are the enemy. Symptoms are problems to solve. Your body is overreacting, and your job is to shut that reaction down.
But what if that’s exactly backwards?
What if your body isn’t overreacting — it’s under-supported?
What if symptoms aren’t problems to manage — they’re signals asking for partnership?
Your body is wise. It remembers balance. When it’s producing histamine and inflammation, it’s doing its best to protect you with the resources it has available.
But when those resources are depleted — when you’re dehydrated, inflamed from poor nutrition or pushing yourself too hard, or carrying stress in your tissues — your body works harder to get the same results.
The “managing” approach tries to quiet those signals. The partnership approach gives your body what it actually needs to find balance.
Sarah’s breakthrough came when she stopped fighting her allergies and started supporting her body through them.
The Partnership Approach: Three Ways Your Body Wants Support
1. Hydration That Actually Reaches Your Tissues
“Drink more water” sounds too simple to matter. But here’s what most people miss: allergies dry out your entire system, not just your sinuses.
When you’re dehydrated at the cellular level, your body produces more histamine to protect what water it has. More histamine means more symptoms.
The difference: Don’t just drink water — drink water that your body can actually use.
- Add a pinch of good salt (like Celtic sea salt) to help your cells actually absorb the water
- Include electrolytes — not the sports drink kind, but real ones from coconut water or a quality supplement
- Drink consistently throughout the day, not just when you’re thirsty
Within three days of changing how she hydrated, Sarah noticed her morning congestion was gone.
2. Foods That Cool the Fire Instead of Feeding It
Your immune system has two settings: calm or alert. Certain foods keep it stuck on high alert, making every allergen feel like a bigger threat.
Anti-inflammatory foods your body recognizes as allies:
- Pineapple — contains bromelain, which helps break down inflammatory proteins
- Fresh ginger — works like a natural antihistamine but supports your body instead of suppressing it
- Wild-caught fish — omega-3s that help your immune system remember how to be calm
- Onions — quercetin that stabilizes mast cells (the ones that release histamine)
- Brussels sprouts — sulfur compounds that help your liver clear inflammatory toxins
- Turmeric — but only if you take it with black pepper or fat, so your body can actually use it
The goal isn’t perfection. It’s giving your body more of what helps and less of what creates extra work.
3. Acupressure That Helps Energy Flow (Instead of Fighting It)
This is where most people look at me skeptically. Until they try it.
Your body is made of energy. When that energy gets stuck — from stress, inflammation, or just the effort of breathing through congested sinuses — everything feels harder.
Acupressure helps energy flow again. It’s like clearing a traffic jam so your body can do what it already knows how to do.
Here are the points that make the biggest difference:
For immediate sinus relief:
- Right hand: Cup your right shoulder where it meets your neck
- Left hand: Place fingers on your left chest, just below the collarbone
- Hold for 1-2 minutes, breathing naturally (holding several very good breaths)
- Switch sides and repeat
For deeper rebalancing:
- Both hands: Hold the base of your skull where it meets your neck (both sides at once)
- Hold for 1-2 minutes
- Then place one hand on your forehead, the other on the back of your head
- Hold for another 1-2 minutes
For full-body support:
- Left hand: Cup your right shoulder near the neck
Right hand: Place fingers at your right lower abdominal area (hold for several breaths) - Right hand: Place fingers at your right hip/sitz bone area (hold for several more breaths)
- After holding for 1-2 minutes, switch sides
Jane, an elementary school teacher, tried this during her lunch break when she felt a “cold” coming on.
Later, she told me, “Your energy tips keep on doing the trick, and I’ve had more energy than I’ve had in days.”
The key: There’s no such thing as too much self-help acupressure. Do it as often as you think of it throughout the day.
Why This Works (When Managing Doesn’t)
When you manage allergies, you’re working against your body’s natural intelligence.
When you partner with your body, you’re working with its natural desire to return to balance.
Your body wants harmony. It’s always moving toward that, even when it doesn’t feel like it. When you give it the right support — proper hydration, foods that don’t create extra inflammation, and help with energy flow — it can get there faster and with less drama.
The result: Fewer symptoms, but more importantly, a body that feels strong and vital instead of like it’s under siege.
Getting to the Other Side
Once your body notices that it’s “on the other side of the progression of allergy patterns,” the self-help acupressure will help you keep the re-patterning going.
Your body is actually reprogramming itself when you spend time helping it experience energetic balance and harmony.
Consistency is the key. Do your energy balancing daily. Hydrate in ways your body can use. Choose foods that work with your immune system instead of against it.
When you limit your exposure to allergy triggers AND support your body’s natural ability to cope, you help your body let go of symptoms, heal, and remove the old pattern that’s been saying, “I’m supposed to react to this pollen.”
Your Body Is Ready
The truth Sarah discovered — and what changed everything for her — is simple: Your body already knows how to find balance. It just needs the right partnership to get there.
You have the ability to create this ease for yourself. It only takes a few minutes and the willingness to listen to what your body is actually asking for.
Ready to dive deeper into these techniques? Join me for the Breathe Easier Workshop on Wednesday, May 27th at 6:00 PM Pacific. We’ll explore the breath and sinus techniques from my Reset Method that support your body’s natural ability to move through allergy season with ease. Register here — early bird pricing available with code BE_EarlyBird.
Love Is in the Air
Love shows up differently for everyone.
Relationships with a significant other.
Bonds with family members and friends.
Connections with what you love to do and your favorite activities.
Connections with what you see and hear — and the smiles those experiences bring to your face.
Many of us hope that February reminds us that love can be how we decide to live in our world. After all, it is the month that brings us Valentine’s Day.
And yet, Valentine’s Day can be uncomfortable for some folks.
Some find it disconcerting to have a recognized day for love if there isn’t a partner in the picture.
This year feels different, too.
It seems to be bringing more questions and confusion. People are feeling unnerved, perplexed, and unsure. There is a lot of questioning going on.
Where is the essence of love in all this craziness around us?
Is it hiding?
Can we help love be more present?
What I’ve been hearing a lot over the last few weeks is this:
“It seems kind of incongruous that there is all this hype about love when there’s so much anger, angst, frustration, and fear being experienced by so many people because of all that is going on.”
We see it.
Life is throwing lots of curveballs.
We’re experiencing this in our individual lives, in our communities, and in the world.
And what we are really talking about here is the nervous system — the part of us that responds first to uncertainty, change, and overwhelm. When the nervous system is under strain, even familiar things can feel unsettling. When it feels supported, we often experience more clarity, steadiness, and ease — even when circumstances haven’t changed.
Here’s the beauty of being a human being: when our nervous system is supported, we have the opportunity to be aware and actually see the curve balls in the air. From there, we get to choose how we respond.
Do we catch that one?
Do we go with a different one?
Do we see how many we can catch?
Or do we allow them to float through the air and see where they land?
Why am I comparing love to curve balls?
Because our bodies — physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and through the nervous system — crave love, care, and compassion.
When those are present, the body naturally moves toward balance and harmony. From that place, our bodies can more easily create the conditions for comfort, mobility, forward movement, expression, communication, uplifting emotions, mental clarity and focus, productivity, immune strength, vitality for favorite activities, and experiences of joy, happiness, and laughter.
When love is the overriding expression in the body, it shows up in many beautiful ways.
Affection.
Adoration.
Friendship.
Tenderness.
Fondness.
Devotion.
Passion.
Joy.
Appreciation.
Attraction.
These are just a few of the ways the body says, “Yes — this is what I’ve been searching for.”
When balance and harmony exist — especially within the nervous system — we can more easily help our bodies be better prepared for what we’re asking them to do and for what might come toward us. To do that, we need awareness of what’s happening around us and a sense of how we want to participate in it all.
Do YOU want to help YOUR body discover balance and harmony and recognize when it is present?
I’d love to share some gentle, approachable ways to support that:
- Create a daily practice of self-care.
I love doing the Daily Clean Your House Flow. It is my foundation — a way of communicating with my body, caring for it, and listening to it so it can feel healthy, happy, and prepared. - Set aside time to contemplate.
Meditate. Enjoy the canvas that Mother Nature creates for you. Listen to the songs and stories that Nature offers. Listen to your own thoughts. If you’re inclined, consider journaling what you discover. - Set aside time to move.
Walk. Stretch. Exercise. Enjoy activities that let you feel your body in motion. - And perhaps most importantly, pause several times a day to show love to yourself.
Show your body, your environment, and the people around you that you are caring for yourself by doing what makes your eyes sparkle and brings smiles to your face.
Yesterday, I went to see a production of My Fair Lady. It had been years since I had seen this musical, and the essence of love was everywhere.
Courtesy of Warner Bros
That story reminds us that friendship, compassion, and love can grow simply by allowing the ups and downs to happen — and by saying yes to possibility.
Because Eliza said yes, a very unusual friendship developed between Eliza, Higgins, and Colonel Pickering. They began alone, without real connection, and became a trio who learned together, played off one another, and developed genuine respect and intimacy.
What did Eliza discover?
That the relationship between her and her body is the most important relationship she would ever have.
And what did I experience?
I set aside time to be with my friend Judy. We laughed, enjoyed the performance, and simply shared time together. Watching her smile and chuckle throughout the show was a gift to me.
So — step into taking care of and loving you.
When you take care of yourself first, you often find you have more availability to be there for others.
When we support the nervous system with kindness and care, our relationship with our body — and with life — can begin to feel very different.
If you’re feeling drawn to support your body in this way, you’re invited to join me for Quiet Confidence When It Counts, a February workshop focused on steadiness, presence, and ease.
→ Learn more here Quiet Confidence When It Counts Workshop
When Time Flies, How Do We Find Our Balance?
Happy Thanksgiving!
November is a month of beautiful transition. Especially in the northern hemisphere, we see autumn giving way to winter, and with that comes the inevitable “holiday experience.”
This year, I keep hearing the same question: “Where has the year gone? How can Thanksgiving already be here?”
Oh, do I know that feeling! I’m blown away by how quickly life is moving. I remember telling my mom when I was a kid that time was moving too slowly. Her response was simple: “Just wait until you get older.” Mom, you were right!
But here’s the tough part: I’m now seeing and hearing children feel that life is moving too fast, too. Kids are supposed to feel time moving perfectly for them!
The Big Instead: Changing Our Internal Rhythm
This collective feeling—that the world is moving too quickly, that there’s so much we want to change but feel powerless to influence—is what drives our stress. Our default is to react, wishing we could stop the clock for a reset.
But we can’t stop the clock. We can only change our internal rhythm.
The BIG instead is this: We need to intentionally bring ourselves to a mindset of gratitude for all that is going right, for all that we appreciate, and for all the golden nuggets that show us the possibilities ahead. In that space of allowance and acceptance, joy and happiness more easily show up.
Simple Energy Tips for Calm and Steadiness
How do I stay in that space of calm and acceptance when life is flying by? Well, this won’t be a big surprise!
I anchor myself with the Daily Clean Your House Flow at least twice a day, and I hold my Jin Shin Jyutsu/acupressure energy points on and off whenever I sense my body is being asked to step up to a physical, mental, or emotional challenge.
Here are a few quick energy tips—a gentle reminder of what might just do the trick for you! Remember: There is NO such thing as too much self-help.
If you’re recognizing that you just want to be happier, put a smile on your face, and feel that “life is okay,” try these holds throughout the day:
- The Hug: Give yourself a hug (hold your upper arms or elbows) to feel grounded.
- Sit Bones: Hold your fingertips on the areas of your sit bones.
- Core Balance: Right hand holds the right base of the skull, and the left hand holds the outside of the right wrist (little finger side). Switch hands and repeat on the left side.
- Knees: Hold the outside of your knees.
- Upper Chest/Tummy: Cup your sternum under the clavicle, and hold your tummy with your other hand.
- The Connector: Do your Jumper Cables.
Let me know what you discover! Are you able to find that “everything seems more okay when the energy and breath are moving”? And, just maybe, you are loving the energy of the holidays even more!
If you want to dive deeper into stress relief and gratitude, join me next month:
Join me for the December 4th Holiday Harmony workshop, and you’ll learn even more energy tips to help you cultivate balance and bring joy into the picture!
It’s free – Yes! It’s my gift this holiday season, and it’s recorded. Register below.
Free Wellness Webinar with Shiroko Sokitch
The dynamic duo of Dr. Shiroko Sokitch – MD/acupuncture and Deborah Myers – Jin Shin practitioner will share tips and tools for taking care of your health and your family’s health while in these stressful times.
Learn from these experts how to increase your ability to stay healthy in body, mind, and spirit. These skills are tantamount to increasing your safety and longevity. Master these tools during this crisis and have them at your fingertips throughout your lives for ease and wellness.
We will cover:
- Self-help acupressure routines.
- Energy points for strengthening the immune system.
- Connecting with the expansion of breath.
- How we can assist our bodies in creating consciousness and awareness during this topsy-turvy time.
- How to bring clarity and focus to our mind and body.
Click here to register for this free webinar!
Learn more about Shiroko Sokitch, MD, director of Heart to Heart Medical Center.
Relieve Stress and Anxiety Free Webinars
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Self-Care Workshops
Build a Sustainable Wellness Practice
2020 Wellness Workshops
Kick off the year with a Twenty-Twenty Vision Workshop
- You’ll increase your productivity and focus
- Gain momentum
- Discard obstacles in your way
- Use the power of attraction to get more of what you want in your life
- Reduce your anxiety and stress levels
- And discover how to enjoy harmony and balance
Wednesday, February 26, 6:30 PM to 8:30 PM at coLAB
Tuition is $69 and includes your choice of one of my books:Easy Self-help Acupressure for Grown-ups orEasy Self-help Acupressure for kids and parents
The workshop will be held in Santa Rosa at coLAB, 427 Mendocino Ave., 95401
To register, go to the registration page or call me At 707-546-5692 to register.
Download a 2020 Wellness Workshop 2020 Vision flyer and share it with people you love.
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Put the power of wellness into your hands
When you want to go deeper into the benefits and practices of easy self-help acupressure, sign up for the next Level One Workshop. A perfect way for you to see and learn hands-on. A Comprehensive Workbook comes with our registration.
Nine hours over three Thursdays evenings in March will set you up With the tools you need for a sustainable wellness practice.
3 Thursdays: March 12, 19, 26 6:00 pm to 9:00 pm at coLAB
Early Bird: $399.00 Tuition: $469.00 Review: $379.00
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To register online: http://bit.ly/DMWone20 or call me at 707.546.5692
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Stress-Proof Your Kid
Stress-Proof Your Kid
Before the holidays begin and family gatherings, this is the perfect time to lessen the pressure building up in your kids.
My pre-Thanksgiving treat for kids, parents, and all kinds of families is a free 45-minute webinar. I’ll share 3 prime ways to “Stress-Proof Your Kids.”
All you have to do is sign-up for an invitation (and join my community).
Free Live Webinar
The live webinar is scheduled for November 20 at 7:00 pm PDT. You can take part in the webinar using a computer, smartphone, tablet, or landline. I promise to leave time for Q&A. Those who register will also get a link to the recording.
Download a Flyer
Stress-Proof-QR-Code is a flyer that will provide you with an easy way to get to the registration page where you can get all the details for the event. This flyer includes a scannable QR-Code.
- To use the QR-Code, hover your smartphone camera over the code
- Your smart device will ask if you want to open the page in a browser window.
- You don’t even need to print the flyer, you can hover your phone in front of your computer screen.
- And, if you want to share the flyer, please feel free. There will be folks joining us from around the country.
If QR-Codes aren’t your cup of tea, click here to get to the registration page.
Have a Happier Holiday Season with your Stress-Proof Kid
Did I mention, this is a free event. You’ll have a happier holiday when you learn how to “Stress-Proof Your Kids.”
Invite someone you love and share the good stuff.
Heart Talk Series Webinar
Whole Earth Hub Heart Talk Series Webinar
Join us on June 26, 2019, from 7 to 8:30 pm PDT
Meet the Speakers for the Heart Talk
Watch a video preview
Heart: Diana Borge
Mind: Marjorie Favuzzi
Body: Deborah Myers
Spirit: Jan Kucker
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It is easy and free. We will use Zoom. To join the call, click on the link below.
You can join by phone, tablet, or computer. Give yourself 5-10 minutes to test your connection.
We want to share four easy techniques to connect your heart, mind, body, and spirit. Join us for this Heart Talk. It is our gift to you. Feel free to share this with one person you feel would benefit.
Hands on Brilliance Workshop
Hands On Brilliance
Since the October fires, do you feel like you’ve lost some of your ability to process information? Have you lost some of your get-up-and-go? None of that is unusual after trauma and chaos, which all of us experienced during and since the wildfires, no matter how we were individually impacted.
You can easily rediscover your vitality by connecting with your energy using self-help acupressure. Rev up your body’s ability to accomplish all you desire to do and be. Become a partner with your body! Help your body let go of the trauma and effects of the wildfires, including shortness of breath and other respiratory symptoms.
Easy Ways to Improve Focus, Clarity and Productivity FREE workshop
Thursday, December 14th, 9:00 – 11:00 am
Santa Rosa Metro Chamber offices
50 Old Courthouse Square, Suite 110, Santa Rosa, CA
To sign up for this FREE workshop go to:
http://bit.ly/MyersDec14
or Call Wendy Eaton at the Chamber, (707) 545-1414
In Deborah’s Workshop, You Will Discover How To:
- Release blocked energy, old patterns, and self-sabotage that can limit your success
- Increase your vitality and productivity — and create peak performance
- Balance your energy & get more out of each day
- Help your body let go of any stress and anxiety
- Rediscover your breath — help your respiratory system heal
- Improve your focus, clarity and memory
- Improve your ability to process information and let go of overwhelm
- Boost your immune system and stay healthy
- Get relief from chronic symptoms including respiratory problems
- Manage pain
- Improve mobility and flexibility
- Handle feelings
I hope you will join me.
Download the Chamber Hands on Brilliance Workshop Flyer 12-14-17 with all of the information and share it with your friends.
Survive and Thrive
Get your breath back after the fires – FREE workshop
Wednesday, November 15th, 9:00 – 11:00 am
Available to ALL residents and community members
Santa Rosa Metro Chamber offices
50 Old Courthouse Square, Suite 110, Santa Rosa, CA
To sign up for this FREE workshop go to:
http://bit.ly/ThriveHAYFT
You know those phrases we have a tendency to use after a crisis?
“It took my breath away.” “Waiting with baited breath.” “Waiting for the next shoe to drop.”
Those phrases are describing our bodies not having enough breath. And, once that has occurred, our bodies have a memory of “not having enough breath.” After the traumatic experiences of the last month, it is pretty easy to recognize that we need to revitalize the respiratory system and make sure to boost our immune systems, especially when the smoke has also been part of the picture.
Santa Rosa Metro Chamber has requested that I offer a workshop to assist the community.
Survive and Thrive Workshop – Discover how to recover from trauma and be prepared for life
Vitality is at your fingertips. You can easily connect with your energy using self-help acupressure and rev up your body’s ability to accomplish all you desire to do and be. Become a partner with your body. And help your body heal from the trauma of the wildfires.
In this workshop with health educator & acupressurist, Deborah Myers, you will discover how to:
- Balance your energy & get more out of each day
- Help your body let go of any stress and anxiety
- Rediscover your breath
- Boost your immune system & stay healthy
- Improve mobility & flexibility
- Improve your focus, clarity, and memory
- Get relief from chronic symptoms & manage pain
- Increase your vitality & productivity & create peak performance
- Let go of overwhelm
- Handle feelings
- Release blocked energy, old patterns, & self-sabotage that can limit your success
To sign up for this FREE workshop go to:
http://bit.ly/ThriveHAYFT
Chamber Survive and Thrive Workshop Flyer 11-15-17
